Ostracism: When Competing Motivations Collide

doi:10.1017/CBO9780511735066.018

16 - Ostracism: When Competing Motivations Collide

Published online by Cambridge University Press: 04 August 2010

Wayne A. Warburton and

Kipling D. Williams

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Joseph P. Forgas ,

Kipling D. Williams and

Simon M. Laham

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Wayne A. Warburton: Affiliation:
Department of Psychology, Macquarie University, Sydney, Australia
Kipling D. Williams: Affiliation:
Department of Psychology, Macquarie University, Sydney, Australia
Joseph P. Forgas: Affiliation:
University of New South Wales, Sydney
Kipling D. Williams: Affiliation:
University of New South Wales, Sydney
Simon M. Laham: Affiliation:
University of New South Wales, Sydney

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INTRODUCTION

In a recent investigation into the causes of 15 school shootings in the United States, Leary, Kowalski, Smith, and Phillips (2003) found that acute or chronic rejection in the form of ostracism, bullying, or romantic rejection was a significant factor in all but two cases, and concluded that these rejection experiences had motivated many of the shooters to behave violently, either as a way of achieving retribution against the rejecting group or gaining social respect. Laboratory research has also shown that in certain circumstances, individuals who experience social exclusion are more likely to exhibit aggressive behaviors than those who are included (Twenge, Baumeister, Tice, & Stucke, 2001; Twenge & Campbell, 2003). As a rather extreme example (hopefully), a recent newspaper article (“Put to the Sword” in The Australian, June 23, 2003) reported on a Thai woman who killed her husband before slicing off his penis, boiling it, and then hanging herself. In her suicide note, she indicated that she was saddened by the fact that her husband had ignored her. Clearly, the act of excluding or rejecting another can have profound motivational consequences for the target, and these motivations may lead to antisocial and even aggressive behaviors.

Conversely, many individuals experience social ostracism on a daily basis without showing any signs that they are being driven by aggressive or antisocial motives (Williams, 2001).

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Information: Social Motivation
Conscious and Unconscious Processes
, pp. 294 - 313

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Print publication year: 2004

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