This article is an exploration of how a group of men in the United
States create homosocial (as opposed to homosexual) desire through
language. In a society in which dominant discourses of masculinity provide
competing scripts of male solidarity and heterosexuality, the achievement
of closeness among men is not straightforward but must be negotiated
through “indirect” means. It is shown how men actively
negotiate dominant cultural discourses in their everyday interactions. In
addition, a broadened view of indirectness, based on social function as
much as denotation, is argued for.This
article was initially presented in much shorter and different form at the
Second International Gender and Language Association (IGALA) Conference in
Lancaster, U.K., in April 2002. I would like to thank the audience there,
and in particular Jennifer Coates, for their comments and lively
discussion. I would also like to thank Deborah Tannen for her insightful
comments and advice, and two anonymous reviewers whose comments
strengthened the article considerably. I would also like to thank the
Department of Anthropology at the University of Chicago for inviting me to
have conversation about this work in their semiotics workshop, and
specifically Lauren Keeler, Jonathan Rosa, and Michael Silverstein.
Ultimately, responsibility for the article's contents remains with
the author.