The Bond Threat Sequence

doi:10.1017/CBO9780511819568.005

3 - The Bond Threat Sequence

Discourse Evidence for the Systematic Interdependence of Shame and Social Relationships

Published online by Cambridge University Press: 01 April 2011

David S. Fearon Jr.

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Larissa Z. Tiedens and

Colin Wayne Leach

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David S. Fearon Jr.: Affiliation:
University of California, Santa Barbara
Larissa Z. Tiedens: Affiliation:
Stanford University, California
Colin Wayne Leach: Affiliation:
University of California, Santa Cruz

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During the last decade there has been increasing attention to “social affect” as a category of emotion strongly associated with the assessment, formulation, and management of social relationships. There is a constant need during social interactions for individuals to evaluate the quality of the interpersonal association. A system of emotions devoted to the quality of “being social” may therefore be most visible when individuals encounter problems involving social relationships. Methods for examining the dynamics of social affect should also capture in detail their integration with the discourse in which they arise. Such methods, however, constitute an almost invisible fraction of the widening literature on social affect. By examining emotions and relationships as they occur, direct analysis of discourse allows exploration of social affect outside the confines of predetermined variables, scenarios, and participants' self-reports on scales.

This chapter presents evidence of a systematic link between social affect and the quality of social relationships. Specifically, it tests and expands Retzinger and Scheff's theory that shame represents a category of social emotion dedicated to maintaining social relationships and sociality among individuals and groups. Methods for analyzing the integration of conversation with affect and relationships are presented and illustrated in detail, and applied to an interview setting in which participants explain their answers to a standard self-evaluation scale. Analysis of discourse found that participants often display in speech and gesture varieties of shame.

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Information: The Social Life of Emotions , pp. 64 - 86

DOI: https://doi.org/10.1017/CBO9780511819568.005 [Opens in a new window]

Publisher: Cambridge University Press

Print publication year: 2004

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