Book contents
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- List of Contributors
- Foreword
- Introduction: The Developmental Course of Marital Dysfunction
- Part I Conceptual and Empirical Contributions
- 1 Communication in Early Marriage: Responses to Conflict, Nonverbal Accuracy, and Conversational Patterns
- 2 Marital Aggression, Quality, and Stability in the First Year of Marriage: Findings from the Buffalo Newlywed Study
- 3 Accommodation Processes During the Early Years of Marriage
- 4 The Psychological Infrastructure of Courtship and Marriage: The Role of Personality and Compatibility in Romantic Relationships
- 5 Happiness in Stable Marriages: The Early Years
- 6 Developmental Changes in Marital Satisfaction: A 6-Year Prospective Longitudinal Study of Newlywed Couples
- 7 The Development of Marriage: A 9-Year Perspective
- 8 Premarital Predictors of Relationship Outcomes: A 15-Year Follow-up of the Boston Couples Study
- 9 Optimizing Longitudinal Research for Understanding and Preventing Marital Dysfunction
- 10 Socialization into Marital Roles: Testing a Contextual, Developmental Model of Marital Functioning
- 11 Physical Aggression in Marriage: A Developmental Analysis
- Part II Invited Commentaries
- Author Index
- Subject Index
4 - The Psychological Infrastructure of Courtship and Marriage: The Role of Personality and Compatibility in Romantic Relationships
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 13 October 2009
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- List of Contributors
- Foreword
- Introduction: The Developmental Course of Marital Dysfunction
- Part I Conceptual and Empirical Contributions
- 1 Communication in Early Marriage: Responses to Conflict, Nonverbal Accuracy, and Conversational Patterns
- 2 Marital Aggression, Quality, and Stability in the First Year of Marriage: Findings from the Buffalo Newlywed Study
- 3 Accommodation Processes During the Early Years of Marriage
- 4 The Psychological Infrastructure of Courtship and Marriage: The Role of Personality and Compatibility in Romantic Relationships
- 5 Happiness in Stable Marriages: The Early Years
- 6 Developmental Changes in Marital Satisfaction: A 6-Year Prospective Longitudinal Study of Newlywed Couples
- 7 The Development of Marriage: A 9-Year Perspective
- 8 Premarital Predictors of Relationship Outcomes: A 15-Year Follow-up of the Boston Couples Study
- 9 Optimizing Longitudinal Research for Understanding and Preventing Marital Dysfunction
- 10 Socialization into Marital Roles: Testing a Contextual, Developmental Model of Marital Functioning
- 11 Physical Aggression in Marriage: A Developmental Analysis
- Part II Invited Commentaries
- Author Index
- Subject Index
Summary
This chapter examines the extent to which relationships are structured in particular ways by the partners' personality characteristics and their compatibility. Three models pertaining to the psychological and interpersonal roots of the development and deterioration of intimate relationships have been proposed by social scientists. (1) The disillusionment model portrays lovers as driven to put their best foot forward and as inattentive to each other's – and the relationship's – shortcomings until after the wedding knot is tied (Huston, 1994; Swann, De La Ronde, & Hixon, 1994; Waller, 1938). (2) The perpetual problems model, in contrast, suggests that the interplay between the partners' dispositions gets played out during courtship and that, as a consequence, the partners develop feelings and views about each other that reflect the underlying, relatively stable, psychological infrastructure of the relationship (Burgess & Wallin, 1953; Heaton, Albrecht, & Martin, 1985; Huston, 1994; Surra, 1990). (3) The accommodation model posits that when problematic dispositions or incompatible desires surface in a relationship they initially create disappointments and antagonisms; over time, however, partners who remain together maintain a satisfactory bond by adapting their expectations or otherwise coming to terms with their situation (Bernard, 1964; Heaton et al., 1985; Rusbult, Verette, Whitney, Slovik, & Lipkus, 1991).
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- The Developmental Course of Marital Dysfunction , pp. 114 - 151Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 1998
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