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9 - Parent–Adolescent Emotion Dynamics and Adolescent Disclosure

from Part II - Reconsidering Parenting and Parental Knowledge

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  12 December 2024

Judith G. Smetana
Affiliation:
University of Rochester, New York
Nicole Campione-Barr
Affiliation:
University of Missouri, Columbia
Lauree C. Tilton-Weaver
Affiliation:
Örebro University
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This chapter highlights the transactional nature of associations between parent behaviors and adolescent information management with a focus on the role of interpersonal emotion dynamics. We argue that timing is an important, yet understudied, aspect of this transactional process. We further focus on how parental empathy is a key way in which parents might encourage adolescent disclosure. We conclude with some directions for future research, including greater attention to cultural values in parenting and information management, and highlight some implications of research in this area.

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