Tedium and narcissism

In his famous essay, ‘The Makropulos Case: Reflections on the Tedium of Immortality’, Bernard Williams (Reference Williams1973) argued that, while long life is a good thing, immortality is undesirable. Given endless time we would eventually exhaust the core projects and interests that made us wish for prolonged life in the first place, and so would sink into tedium.

Williams is not alone in this view, of course. Schopenhauer, Mark Twain, Paul Tillich, and Tolkien's Elves all tell us that endless longevity is undesirable; and most twenty-first-century philosophers agree. Yet in recent years, John Martin Fischer (Reference Fischer2019) has been arguing, against Williams and others he refers to as ‘immortality curmudgeons’, that an endless life spent pursuing a variety of interests, including the repetition of intrinsically worthwhile activities, is a reasonable and attractive picture of human immortality.

My own view, however, is that Bernard Williams has embedded in his argument the key for dismantling it. That key is his choice of the word tedium, instead of the more commonplace boredom, in his essay's subtitle. Boredom is a word of modern coinage and shallow associations, while tedium (or its synonym acedia) has a long history in classical and post-classical moral psychology, and in the literature of late antique Christian monasticism, where it is classified among the eight temptations (logismoi) with which the demons assail contemplatives.Footnote ²

For Williams, tedium occurs because there is a natural limit to our human capacity to take an interest, pay attention, lay plans, and fulfil them. For ascetic and monastic writers, however, tedium is not a natural limitation, but a vice. John Cassian (Reference Cassian1900), writing in the fifth century, gives us a typical account of a Christian monk in the grip of tedium: ‘he looks about anxiously this way and that, and sighs that none of the brethren come to see him, and often goes in and out of his cell, and frequently gazes up at the sun, as if it was too slow in setting, and so a kind of unreasonable confusion of mind takes possession of him like some foul darkness, and makes him idle and useless for every spiritual work’.Footnote ³ An analogous syndrome – thīna-middha ('sloth-and-torpor’) – appears in the Abhidhamma Piṭaka and in later Buddhist literature among the unwholesome mental factors that endanger spiritual practice. The Mahāyāna teacher Śāntideva (to be discussed below) warns monks against the idle habit of ‘breaking up clods of earth, ripping grass, and drawing lines in the earth without any purpose’ (Śāntideva (1996), 5.46, p. 38). One hears, in these small details, the voice of seasoned elders. Monastics and ascetics have a special intimacy with tedium; I take them to be experts on the subject.

The good news is that if tedium is a vice or, if you prefer, an impairment of attention and affections, it may admit of a cure. If tedium is a vice rather than a natural limitation, it follows that in principle human beings have the potential to be healed and transformed into a condition which would make immortality a worthy object of desire. We know from experience that we have it within us to be utterly absorbed in an object we find desirable or beautiful or otherwise worthy of attention. We also know how quickly we exhaust our powers of attention. But perhaps we were not meant to be so restless, so easily bored; perhaps we were meant to have inexhaustible reserves of attention, admiration, and love. As we are now, we aren't fit for immortality, but perhaps we may be made fit, and in that remaking become more, rather than less, like ourselves.

That we aren't very good at imagining this transformed way of being doesn't mean that it is wholly alien to our nature. Monks and nuns, ascetics and mystics, and ordinary pious folks have already set their sights on this transformation and are preparing, here and now, by prayer, meditation, spiritual exercises, and works of love, to receive it.

So much for the boredom critique. But the narcissism critique should still give us pause. Picture a certain kind of seeker obsessively combing the annals of psychical research in search of evidence for personal survival of bodily death. The spectacle is unattractive, to say the least. Now contrast this with the selfless equanimity with which so many celebrated non-believers have faced the prospect of their own death. Think of David Hume dying (according to the testimony of his friends) with his patience, wisdom, kindliness, and humour intact. Or think of Derek Parfit, making the cheerful discovery that as soon as he abandoned the idea of personal identity, the ‘glass tunnel’ he had been living in disappeared and he was cured of self-centeredness as well as fear of death (Parfit (Reference Parfit1984), 281; cf. Idem (Reference Parfit1971)). My colleague Jay Garfield has developed this theme of moral awakening through giving up the idea of a substantial self in many of his writings, including his recent book Losing Ourselves (Reference Garfield2022). Such examples ought to make one wonder: isn't it nobler to face death squarely, not demanding the assurance of a persistent ego-self? It's a good question which, if not fatal to immortality belief, can perform the service of cleansing that belief of its narcissistic contaminants. For an exaggerated preoccupation with personal immortality is disqualifying for any immortality worthy of the name. In seeking ego-centred self-preservation at all costs, the narcissist paradoxically annihilates the self by refusing the gift of true blessedness. This is the point of the second criterion I propose: a fitting belief in immortality will hold fast to the middle path, satisfying the demand for self-transcendence as well as for self-preservation, avoiding extremes.

Śāntideva and intimations of deathlessness

To explore the possibility that a sceptical challenge to immortality belief may purify rather than abrogate such belief, thus rendering it ‘fitting’ within a religious context, I turn to my first illustration, from the Bodhicaryāvatāra of the eighth-century Indian Buddhist scholar-poet Śāntideva. The Bodhicaryāvatāra is Śāntideva's summons and guide to the bodhisattva way of life, and to the bodhicitta, the altruistic resolve to attain awakening (bodhi) for the benefit of all beings, which is at its heart.

Admittedly, Śāntideva may seem an odd figure to recruit for an article on how to believe in immortality. Formed by the Mahāyāna sūtras and the Madhyamaka (‘Middle Way’) school, Śāntideva is adept at hammering down would-be absolutes wherever they pop up. If we are to think with Śāntideva, we have to imagine that everything and everyone, from gods to garden snails, is impermanent, dependently arising, empty of self, intrinsic nature, or ‘own-being’(svabhāva) – and that we harm ourselves and others by grasping for a permanent hold where none is to be found. Clinging to unreal mental constructions, making ourselves and others miserable with ego-making thoughts, sowing deeds (karma) that for good or ill must bear fruit in future lives, we are captive to the cycle of birth and death. Reborn as a hell being, an animal, or a hungry ghost, I'll pay the consequences for my evil deeds – and will be hard pressed to amass the merit I need to improve future lives. Even in paradise there is no immortality to be found. Reborn as a god, after long eons of bliss I will exhaust my merit and fall into a lower birth. The situation is urgent, Śāntideva says: just now as I am enjoying the exceedingly rare privilege of a human birth, neither lulled by the pleasantness of paradise nor crushed by the miseries of lower births, I should resolve without a moment's delay to become awakened for the benefit of all sentient beings.

One point needs clarification at the outset. I take rebirth to be a background assumption for Śāntideva as for traditional Buddhists generally, though scholars and practitioners offer differing assessments of its centrality to the Dharma. For the purpose of this article it matters little if the standard arguments for rebirth – whether offered by Dharmakīrti in the late sixth century or by investigators of reincarnation memories in our own time – are persuasive or not. For it is not within the ordinary course of rebirth that one should look for immortality. On a traditional Buddhist account, every birth, however pleasant, is stalked by death, and fear of death only tightens death's grip upon us.Footnote ⁴ What intrigues me, rather, are the intimations of deathlessness to be found in accounts of Buddhist awakening – the suggestion that deathlessness is somehow a feature of awakening, whether beyond or (as in Mahāyāna traditions) transcendently within cyclic existence. For Śāntideva, deathlessness is tasted by the bodhisattva who no longer pines for that storied ‘other shore’ beyond saṃsāra, but who resolves, rather, to awaken for the benefit of other beings.

How to generate this altruistic resolve? Whether because there is more than one hand in its composition, or because its author is a virtuoso of upāya (skill in means), the Bodhicaryāvatāra dispenses an assortment of instructions ranging from the folk-proverbial to the technically philosophical, suitable for every stage of the journey. If I am a beginner on the path, I should heed Śāntideva's warnings about the torments of hell. If assailed by carnal temptations, I should employ time-honoured ascetical techniques – neutralizing lust, for example, by meditating on the beloved's entrails. As a moral incentive, I should reflect on the equality of all sentient beings – for it is a truism that everyone wishes to be happy. Suffering is simply bad, and should therefore be removed wholesale without preferential treatment (Bodhicaryāvatāra 8.103). Finally I should realize that there is no other way for me to attain true happiness than to donate myself to others, dedicating to their well-being whatever merit I accumulate through spiritual practice. Echoing the Mahāyāna liturgy called the ‘supreme worship’ (anuttara-pūja), the Bodhicaryāvatāra abounds in performative utterances:

Here is altruism to the nth power, enacted with language that is at once prayerful and heroically sacrificial.

In the ninth chapter on the Perfection of Wisdom, Śāntideva moves from ethics to metaphysics, drawing upon the Abhidharma analysis of existence as a causal stream of impersonal, ownerless dharmas while rejecting the view of dharmas as atom-like things, honouring Cittamātra teachings on equality of self and other while rejecting the view of consciousness as something independently real. He is free to be eclectic metaphysically because he holds fast to the Madhyamaka understanding of emptiness as his touchstone; with his core commitments in place, there is room for considerable speculative freedom.

Having acknowledged the difference between conventional and ultimate truth, Śāntideva uses conventional words about death and rebirth to set free those caught in language's nets. While he devotes himself to the flourishing of sentient beings, he harbours no doubts as to their ultimately illusory character.Footnote ⁵ One might expect, therefore, that he would be as eager as a Hume or a Parfit to wean us away from immortality language. Nonetheless, I cannot read the Bodhicaryāvatāra without noticing imagery evocative of immortality thinking.

Such intimations are present from the very beginning of Śāntideva's guide. The text begins with an extraordinary promise: the instant you set forth on the bodhisattva way of life, the base metal of your ordinary body will be transmuted into the precious gem that is the body of a Buddha. The bodhicitta is like an alchemical elixir, Śāntideva tells us: ‘the elixir of life, produced to vanquish death in the world’ (Śāntideva (1997), 3.28, p. 36).

The compound noun translated here as ‘elixir of life’ is an elaboration of amṛta, a remarkable word of ancient Indic ancestry which, like the Greek words ambrosia and nectar, means both deathlessness and the elixir that conquers death.Footnote ⁶ In Buddhist literature, we hear the Buddha praised as amṛta, his Dharma as amṛta, Nirvana as amṛta, mindfulness as amṛta. In the Perfection of Wisdom sūtras, emptiness is amṛta. Amitabha, portrayed as the Buddha of Infinite Life (Amitāyus), holds a vase of amṛta. The lay Buddhist master Vimalakīrti, in the sūtra that bears his name, treats his guests to a magical feast of amṛta. Among Mādhyamikas, both Bhāviveka and his critic Candrakīrti employ the expression tattvāmṛta to refer to the way things really are, undistorted by conceptualizations.Footnote ⁷ Amṛta may be taken to be metaphorical in these Buddhist cases, but if so it is a particularly strong metaphor, steeped in myth, ritual, alchemy, and medicine, and assimilated in meditative and visionary experience.

If only in this strong metaphorical sense, the Bodhicaryāvatāra conveys intimations of immortality. The bodhisattva's ‘perfection of generosity’ (dānapāramitā) imparts a gleam of deathlessness to this death-stalked world: ‘As long as space abides and as long as the world abides, so long may I abide, destroying the sufferings of the world’ is Śāntideva's prayerful resolve (Śāntideva (1996), 10.55, p. 143). He does not seek to escape from contingency into some absolute realm. Keeping to the Middle Way, he avoids the extremes of annihilationism and eternalism. He finds freedom from contingency within contingency, nirvana within this dreamlike show of a world. Call it deathlessness rather than immortality if that makes it less likely to be misunderstood. Call it deathlessness within life, rather than after life, if you prefer.

On the other hand, if we widen our view of the text to encompass its non-monastic as well as monastic audience, if we think of what it must be like to hear Śāntideva's words spoken by revered teachers, to hear them again during instructions for the dying and funeral rites for the dead, to have them echo in memory during private moments of grief, then the intimations of deathlessness acquire a powerful resonance. For ordinary folk hard-pressed by life, the bodhisattva path may be a far-off dream, but the good news is that there are magnanimous beings dispensing well-being out of their inexhaustible treasury of merit. Knowing this, Śāntideva dedicates his merit not only for the ultimate awakening of all sentient beings, but also for the fulfilment of their mundane desires: ‘May all beings have immeasurable life. May they always live happily. May the very word “death” perish’ (Śāntideva (1996), 10.33, p. 141).

Such intimations of deathlessness are muted, however, if we turn to secular analogues. Mark Johnston (Reference Johnston2012), in his remarkable book Surviving Death, traces a movement from anatta to agape, that is, from no-self to self-sacrificing love. He suggests, in a humanistic vein, that immortality can be ours provided we deny the self and join the ‘onward rush of humankind’ (an expression Johnston takes from John Stuart Mill). For Johnston, the good are so thoroughly identified with others that they live on, as it were, in multiple embodiments. It's a beautiful thought, but it makes no provision for ongoing communion between the living and the dead. Similarly for Derek Parfit: when the glass tunnel of personal identity dissolves, other people come closer, but they are other people only of the sort that a naturalistic account could permit.

For Śāntideva, in contrast, the other people who come closer constitute a vast company of buddhas, bodhisattvas, gods, and other dazzling beings in addition to the ordinary folk one meets every day. It's not only the living who have a moral claim upon one; as in most traditional cultures, the dead also have a moral claim. To think otherwise would be to make nonsense of pious practices regarding the deceased, and Śāntideva has no wish to make nonsense of pious practices. But here is the Buddhist distinctive: the bodhisattva's response to this moral claim is unconditional; it extends to countless multitudes; and it is heightened by the conviction that its beneficiaries are dependently originated, lacking a self, empty of own-being. To accept the moral claim of others on these terms is to taste the ambrosia of deathlessness, purified of narcissistic craving for personal survival. Such is Śāntideva's altruistic intimation of deathlessness.

For Śāntideva, this altruistic intimation of deathlessness goes hand in hand with the no-self teaching, set against a background of religious practices that link the living and the dead. But for other Indic philosophical and religious traditions (such as Hindu or Jain) which proclaim the reality of a transcendent, changeless, blissful ātman, there are analogous moral fruits. The glass tunnel must dissolve for the ātmavādin, too, for the only way to realize my true self is to disidentify from my ego-self. The spiritual disciplines that support self-realization, thus understood, aim at loosening the ego's grip by subduing the passions, retraining the attention, warming the heart with devotion, and balancing ecstatic states with prudence about the needs of the body and sensitivity to the needs of others.

So it is that the overt affirmations of immortality that figure so powerfully in many South Asian traditions, as well as the subtle intimations of deathlessness one finds in Śāntideva, rest upon the full length and breadth of their respective teachings and practices. Isolated arguments for immortality are vulnerable to being discredited; but where an intuition of immortality rests upon the lattice-work of a fully realized religious tradition, its claims become stronger and its moral fruits more wholesome.

So far I have suggested that immortality is a fitting object of belief provided it is supported by a fully realized religious tradition which, keeping to the Middle Way, balances self-preservation with self-transcendence and preserves the relationship between the living and the dead. For the remainder of this article, to pursue the same suggestion from a quite different angle, I turn to a question about the immortality of the soul as it pertains to the two-stage afterlife characteristic of classical Judaism, Christianity, and Islam.

Immortality of the soul and the intermediate state

For Jews, Christians, and Muslims, the traditional belief is that the dead will be raised at the end of time as complete embodied, perfected individuals.Footnote ⁸ But between death and resurrection there is a puzzling interregnum. Do the dead utterly blink out of existence, only to be reconstituted by resurrection? Are they unconscious, in suspended animation, or asleep? If the dead persist as separated souls without sense organs, what kind of experience, if any, are they capable of enjoying? If the blessed are admitted even now to the rewards of paradise, does that make the future resurrection superfluous? Which of the standard models of personal identity and selfhood is best suited to make sense of the two-stage afterlife traditionally professed by Jews, Christians, and Muslims?

One popular option is dualism. Soul–body dualism of a Platonic or Cartesian kind does a good job of securing the self's persistence even in a disembodied state, and has the virtue of simplicity, as Richard Swinburne likes to point out. Yet our biological evolution, our kinship to other animals, and the intricate entanglement of mind and brain make dualism – even if it should turn out to be the best candidate – difficult to theorize and defend.

More attractive to many theists today are hybrid models that stress the integrity of the human organism, regarding body and soul as naturally intertwined. On the view called hylomorphism, the human soul is the substantial form (morphē) which communicates life and structure to the human body. Once separated by death, the body loses its human signature and becomes a mere corpse, while the soul is deprived of its normal body-constituting role. Hence, on a hylomorphic account, a complete and flourishing human life beyond death would require bodily resurrection.

Each of these models – dualistic and hylomorphic, with their many variations – faces a particular challenge. The dualist's challenge is to explain why resurrection of the body is necessary in addition to immortality of the soul; the hylomorphist's challenge is to account for the continuity of the human person during the interim period between death and resurrection. Yet with good will and skilful reasoning, these challenges can be met, though in different eras the climate of opinion will favour one model over the other for a time.

An interesting case in point is the current debate concerning ‘survivalist’ versus ‘corruptionist’ interpretations of Thomas Aquinas's teaching on the status of the separated soul.Footnote ⁹ The nomenclature is somewhat misleading: no one denies that, for Thomas, the separated soul (whose incorruptibility is knowable by reason) survives throughout the intermediate period from death until bodily resurrection. But the corruptionist reading is that the human person does not survive the loss of the body at death. Thomas's observation (2012), anima mea non est ego (‘my soul is not I’), is frequently quoted in this regard. The survivalist reading, however, interprets Thomas as allowing for the idea that human personhood persists throughout the intermediate period.

For believers well grounded in their tradition, the existence of such rival views of the soul isn't in itself a great problem. Scholars may disagree about what Thomas Aquinas meant, but no one could imagine him endorsing a view of the soul which makes nonsense of such pious practices as praying to the saints or praying for the souls in purgatory. Aquinas remains a Catholic on any sound reading. The real worry arises when a disagreement over the metaphysics of the human person shakes the foundation of core religious practices and commitments. The remainder of this article will consider just such a practical case: a twentieth-century theological contretemps concerning immortality of the soul.

Here's how the issue was framed by the eminent Lutheran theologian Oscar Cullmann, in his 1955 Ingersoll Lecture on Human Immortality at Harvard:

Cullmann was not the first advocate of this view, nor was he alone in promoting it. Many exegetes and theologians were urging Christians to close their ears to the siren song of immortality of the soul, deeming it a Greek import unfaithful to the holism of biblical anthropology, unmindful of the centrality of Christ's redeeming work. Resurrection should be the exclusive focus of Christian hope. And in that case, the argument was, it is better to think of the intermediate period as unconscious sleep or temporary extinction, and thus conveniently set aside the church-dividing doctrine of purgatory.Footnote ¹⁰

By the 1960s, a dehellenizing campaign, as Joseph Ratzinger called it (Reference Ratzinger1988), was well advanced among Catholics as well as Protestants, with a number of biblical theologians arguing that one should think of life after death as entry into God's eternity, rather than as a temporal interlude in which separated souls hang around waiting to receive their bodies. A novel theory called ‘resurrection in death’ was proposed as a way to overcome body–soul dualism and eliminate the redundancies of the traditional two-stage eschatology.

All this might have been a tempest in an exegetical teapot if it weren't for the fact that the dehellenizing campaign contributed to a general climate of embarrassment about soul language – an embarrassment that spread beyond the guild of professional theologians to affect the congregation. Some pastors began to wonder if it was improper to speak of going to heaven when you die, improper to comfort mourners with assurances about the souls of the departed, improper, even, to address prayers to the saints. Why pray for the dead, or to the dead, if there is no conscious life on the receiving end?

There were other practical consequences. Catholic liturgists seeking to implement the Vatican II mandate to reform the traditional (1962) Roman Missal trimmed back the use of the word anima (soul), deleting it even from Masses for the Dead.Footnote ¹¹ This was part of a general movement to restrain what were deemed excessively individualistic and otherworldly tendencies in public worship. Moreover, in places where anima was retained in the 1970 Roman Missal, English-language translators favoured prosaic alternatives. The Communion Rite prayer, ‘Lord, I am not worthy that you should enter under my roof, but only say the word and my soul shall be healed’ (Domine non sum dignus ut intres sub tectum meum; sed tantum dic verbo et sanabitur anima mea), echoing the prayer of the centurion for his paralysed servant (Matthew 8:8), became by the translator's licence the abstract utterance ‘Lord, I am not worthy to receive you, but only say the word and I shall be healed.’ The assumption was that the pronoun I is more holistic than the noun soul. But the effect was paradoxically disembodying, for the word soul is far richer than the pronoun I in sensory and spiritual associations. It was entirely unnecessary, too: on a traditional Christian account the soul indwells the body not as a mere part like an appendix, but as a part that unifies the whole, is the deepest dimension of the whole, and represents the whole by synecdoche. That's about as holistic as any anthropological term could be. Moreover, as they await the general resurrection, the souls of the blessed already enjoy a corporate existence, so to speak, as part of the heavenly society in which they abide as members of Christ's body, in fellowship with all the saints, at once at rest and active in contemplation and charity.

Eventually the dehellenization campaign subsided. In 2011, the word soul was restored to English-language liturgical texts, reflecting principles set down earlier by a ‘Letter on Certain Questions concerning Eschatology’ published by the Sacred Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (1979), and a subsequent intervention by the International Theological Commission (1992). Against the view that would oppose resurrection of the whole person to immortality of the soul, the Letter affirmed:

And, most importantly: ‘The Church excludes every way of thinking or speaking that would render meaningless or unintelligible her prayers, her funeral rites and the religious acts offered for the dead. All these are, in their substance, loci theologici.’ The Letter sets forth a principle of restraint, not to make nonsense of pious practices that link the living and the dead; and it joins this principle of restraint to a principle of speculative freedom, not demanding uniformity in matters of metaphysics. One may be a Platonist or an Aristotelian, a survivalist or a corruptionist, provided the non-negotiables are honoured. Śāntideva, as I've suggested, observed a comparable restraint and enjoyed a comparable speculative freedom.

For Jews, Christians, and Muslims alike, there is one word in the lexicon of theological anthropology which overshadows the words soul and body and renders disputes about them less worrisome: that word is creature. As a creature, the human being receives each moment of existence as a sheer gift. This is a key point that regulates metaphysical speculation: the fact that we are made is more important than what we are made of. We could be as immaterial as angels and God could destroy us if it were just for God to do so. We could be as material as mayflies and God could preserve us. Immortalism fails when it becomes forgetful of creaturehood. Mortalism fails when it severs the relationship between this life and the next, between the living and the dead, between the human person and God.

By the same token, personal identity in the afterlife becomes conceivable by dint of relation to one's maker. As the infant's development of a unified personal identity is fostered by the face-to-face vision of the mother and thwarted by its deprivation, so personal identity in the future life may be fostered by the face-to-face vision of God, the beatific vision.Footnote ¹²

In principle, if I am Jewish, Christian, or Muslim, I believe in immortality because I believe in God, not because I have prior or independent proof of immortality. I need not be discouraged by the inconclusive character of isolated arguments for life after death. As long as I understand immortality in a way that harmonizes with the total pattern of creation, revelation, and redemption to which I subscribe, it is rational for me to believe in it. And from this it follows that I may judge models of body, soul, and self on their fittingness in relation to what I believe about God and in relation to what I do as a member of the spiritual community in which I am enfolded. Analogously, if I am Buddhist, I believe in amṛta – deathlessness – because I honour my interdependence with all sentient beings and entrust myself to the protection of fully awakened beings of invincible compassion. To satisfy mere curiosity about the afterlife is not conducive to my awakening, but deathlessness becomes intelligible as a Mahāyāna Buddhist theme when it is seen in light of the total Gestalt of the bodhisattva way of life.

There is admittedly a certain circularity to the claim that belief in immortality may be justified by internal considerations of harmony or fittingness. Yet I hope to have shown that belief in immortality is not always an automatic concomitant of a religious outlook. In the Buddhist and Christian cases examined here, there are tensions to resolve and work to be done in order to harmonize belief in immortality with the total pattern of religious belief.

How to believe in immortality? Immerse yourself in an immortality-bearing tradition which offers you something even greater than your own immortality to believe in and to love, and a thousand things besides your own immortality in which to take an interest. It should present a comprehensive vision of reality. It should appeal to your sense of what is good, beautiful, and true; engage your reason and your affections; integrate what you know while surpassing what you know; challenge as well as console; and direct you towards the fulfilment that is proper to your nature.

As the examples I've discussed illustrate, fully realized religious traditions have the resources to nurture as well as to restrain the impulse to believe in immortality. Coherent, religion-specific immortality beliefs balance self-transcendence and self-preservation, honour the connection between the living and the dead, and tolerate considerable speculative freedom provided the core beliefs of the tradition are in place. Narcissism is not an issue – for on any well-developed religious conception, the price of immortality is death to self; the promise of immortality is relationship unbroken by death; and the perfection of generosity is to draw others into this deathless relationship.