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² The categories of deceptive sex that are punishable, and others that might come before courts, are set out in sections 3 and 4.

³ Eg public confidence in medical professionals: www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-50727810; https://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/crime/sex-predator-doctor-branded-master-21451812. Although I discuss a case involving an undercover police officer who had sex with citizens to whom he had not disclosed his identity in subsequent sections of this paper, this example is used to consider the significance of deceptions about political beliefs and the difference between genuine and false identity expression. Since these issues might arise in the context of ordinary relationships, the case is relevant for my purposes even though the particular harms of police misconduct and the peculiar sanctions it deserves are not.

⁴ Falk describes deceptive sex that occurs within special relationships of power or authority – those involving ‘professional, trust-based alliances or relationships involving authoritative positions or power imbalances’ – as ‘the most noncontroversial and unassailable fact patterns’: Falk, PJ ‘Rape by fraud and rape by coercion’ (1998) 64(1) Brooklyn Law Journal 44Google Scholar at 131. Deceptive sex that occurs within the context of sex work is considered by many to be controversial but it cannot be addressed adequately within the confines of this paper.

⁵ In addition to focusing exclusively on deceptive sex that occurs within ordinary contexts, I am concerned only with sex that is solely deceptive. Cases that involve both deception and coercion, eg R v Jheeta [2007] EWCA 1699, where the defendant posed as a police officer but also made the complainant believe that she would be liable for a fine unless she had sex with him, are therefore excluded. For one account of the difference between deceptive and coercive sex, see Pundik, A ‘Coercion and deception in sexual relations’ (2015) 28(1) Canadian Journal of Law & Jurisprudence 92CrossRefGoogle Scholar.

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⁷ See https://gtr.ukri.org/projects?ref=AH%2FS013180%2F1; https://www.law.ed.ac.uk/research/research-projects/identity-deception.

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¹⁸ On physical harm see LE Chiesa ‘Solving the riddle of rape by deception’ (2017) 35 Yale Law & Policy Review 407. Chiesa raises the possibility of emotional harm providing a basis on which to draw a line, but he does not develop this idea. On physical harm as a limit in tort law see Hasday, JE Intimate Lies and the Law (New York: Oxford University Press, 2019)CrossRefGoogle Scholar and Sacks, DP ‘Intentional sex torts’ (2008) 77(3) Fordham Law Review 1051Google Scholar.

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²⁴ I am grateful to Rachel Clement Tolley for drawing my attention to this point.

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²⁹ Ibid, pp 25–26.

³⁰ Ibid, p 36.

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⁵⁰ It is worth reiterating the point, made in section 1, that it is the likely (and predictable) relationship between these deceptions and identity-formation that matters in identifying the wrong of identity nonrecognition.

⁵¹ R v Flattery (1877) 2 QBD 410.

⁵² R v Williams [1923] 1 KB 340.

⁵³ R v Dee [1884] 14 LR Ir 468; Sexual Offences Act 1956, s 1(2). A number of US jurisdictions and the Model Penal Code refer to spousal impersonation in rape by deception laws: see Pundik, above n 19, at 174.

⁵⁴ For a version of this argument in the American context see Falk, above n 4, at 66–67.

⁵⁵ This is now listed as one of the two situations involving deception where there is no consent under the Sexual Offences (Scotland) Act 2009 (s 13(2)(d)) and one of the two situations where lack of consent, and lack of belief in consent, is conclusively presumed under the Sexual Offences Act 2003 (s 76(2)(a)).

⁵⁶ In R v B [2007] 1 WLR 1567, the Court of Appeal held that failure to disclose one's HIV status would not invalidate consent to sex. According to the decision in R v McNally [2014] QB 593 (para 24), however, the judgment in R v B left open the possibility that active deception about one's HIV status might invalidate consent to sex (see also Lawrence, above n 1, where this point is recognised (para 40)). Canadian courts have held that failure to disclose HIV status and the ‘sabotage’ of contraception (condoms) can invalidate consent to sex (R v Cuerrier [1998] 2 SCR 371; R v Mabior 2012 SCC 47; R v Hutchinson 2014 SCC 19). For critical commentary see Grant, I ‘The prosecution of non-disclosure of HIV in Canada: time to rethink Cuerrier’ (2011) 5(1) McGill Journal of Law and Health 7Google Scholar.

⁵⁷ Assange v Swedish Prosecution Authority [2011] EWHC 2849 (Admin). Non-consensual removal of condom has led to convictions for rape (later lowered to ‘defilement’) in Switzerland (https://www.reuters.com/article/us-swiss-stealthing/swiss-court-upholds-sentence-in-stealthing-condom-case-idUSKBN1851UN) and sexual assault in Germany, though this finding apparently meant that the sexual activity itself was deemed consensual (https://edition.cnn.com/2018/12/20/health/stealthing-germany-sexual-assault-scli-intl/index.html).

⁵⁸ R (on the application of F) v DPP [2013] EWHC 945 (Admin).

⁵⁹ Lawrence, above n 1, paras 4, 7, 39, 43. Like McNally, which is discussed further below, Lawrence was decided under s 74 of the Sexual Offences Act 2003, which is the general consent provision and states that a person consents if they agree by choice and have the freedom and capacity to make that choice, rather than s 76, which deals specifically with deceptions as to the nature or purpose of the act. For a summary of the case and short critique, see N Davis ‘Does a lie about fertility negate consent?’ 23 July 2020, https://www.parksquarebarristers.co.uk/news/lie-fertility-negate-consent/.

⁶⁰ R v Elbekkay [1995] Crim LR 163; the second conclusive presumption of consent and lack of reasonable belief in consent under the Sexual Offences Act 2003 (s 76(2)(b)) and the second of the two situations involving deception where there is no consent under the Sexual Offences (Scotland) Act 2009 (s 13(2)(e)). Under the Italian Penal Code, it is punishable to induce someone to engage in sexual acts by impersonating another person: Cleave, RA Van ‘Sex, lies, and honour in Italian rape law’ (2005) 38 Suffolk University Law Review 427Google Scholar at 447.

⁶¹ Monica, above n 17, at para 76, discussing the judgment in the earlier case of McNally, above n 56 (para 26). In at least one case involving the undisclosed use of a prosthetic penis there was significant physical harm in addition to deception: HM Advocate v Carlos Delacruz unreported, 2018: http://www.scotland-judiciary.org.uk/8/2047/HMA-v-Carlos-Delacruz.

⁶² McNally, above n 56, at para 24.

⁶³ Except perhaps in the cases of asexuality that are characterised by no sexual arousal and pansexuality: EM Morgan ‘Contemporary issues in sexual orientation and identity development in emerging adulthood’ in J Jensen Arnett (ed) The Oxford Handbook of Emerging Adulthood (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2015) p 262.

⁶⁴ A Sharpe ‘Why we should oppose gender identity fraud prosecutions’ Legal Voice 10 July 2017, http://legalvoice.org.uk/oppose-gender-identity-fraud-prosecutions/.

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⁶⁶ Doniger, above n 32, p 91, emphasis added.

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⁷⁴ Czechowski et al, above n 72, at 13.

⁷⁵ J Brennan ‘Stealth breeding: barebacking without consent’ (2017) 8(4) Psychology and Sexuality 318. One of the participants in the study speaks of ‘knocking up young guys’ (at 322).

⁷⁶ Amanda Clough points out that the only risk involved in deception as to use of the contraceptive pill is pregnancy and wonders whether this, when it results in conception, ought to be considered reproduction (rather than sex) without consent: ‘Conditional consent and purposeful deception’ (2018) 82(2) Journal of Criminal Law 178. The same could be said about the withdrawal method, although the burdens of reproduction differ for men and women.

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⁸³ It is worth repeating that I am sceptical about this claim in the case of transgender defendants.

⁸⁴ For discussion of the complex relationships between discourses of ‘passing’ and deception, see Billard, TJ ‘“Passing” and the politics of deception: transgender bodies, cisgender aesthetics, and the policing of conspicuous marginal identities’ in Docan-Morgan, T (ed) The Palgrave Handbook of Deceptive Communication (Cham: Springer International Publishing, 2019) p 463Google Scholar.

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⁸⁷ Eg age. Failure to acknowledge one's preferred age would not count as identity nonrecognition, since age is not (yet?) in any sense self-determined (https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-46425774). For a tragic example of the significance that a mismatch between imputed and lived or self-identified age can hold, see https://openjusticecourtofprotection.org/2020/07/13/hunger-striking-for-his-identity-autonomy-capacity-and-justice/.

⁸⁸ Hasday, above n 18, p 11.

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⁹³ I briefly discuss their potential legal salience in the next section, however.

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⁹⁷ Monica, above n 17, para 3.

⁹⁸ If this kind of deception counted this would have the effect that an underage child who lied about or failed to disclose their age could be liable for a sex offence. As with incest laws that render both parties liable to prosecution, however, it would be possible not to prosecute the child.

⁹⁹ On the disappearance of annulment actions based on deception as to racial background in post-civil rights era America, see Hasday, n above 18, pp 117–124.

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¹⁰⁸ In contrast, under the Sexual Offences (Scotland) Act 2009 the prosecution has to prove a lack of reasonable belief in consent even where one of the circumstances that indicate there is no consent pertains (which includes deceptions that go to the nature or purpose of the act and impersonating someone known personally to the complainer) (cf GW v HM Advocate [2019] HCJAC 23). Under the Sexual Offences Act 2003, where either of the deceptions specified in the Act (which correspond with the two listed in the 2009 Act) occur, it is conclusively presumed that the complainant did not consent and that the defendant did not believe that the complainant consented.

¹⁰⁹ Lacey, above n 6, at 66.

¹¹⁰ I do not here suggest what kind of onus this should be but note that in some jurisdictions, such as Canada, a similar defence imposes an evidentiary burden on the defendant: Barranco, K ‘Canadian sexual assault laws: a model for affirmative consent on college campuses’ (2016) 24(3) Michigan State International Law Review 801Google Scholar at 816.

¹¹¹ As suggested by SF Colb ‘The Jerusalem ‘rape by deception’ case: can a lie transform consensual sex into rape?’, https://supreme.findlaw.com/legal-commentary/the-jerusalem-rape-by-deception-case-can-a-lie-transform-consensual-sex-into-rape.html. In Scotland, at least one instance of ‘gender fraud’ has been charged as ‘obtaining sexual intimacy by fraud’ (Wilson (2013, unreported)) and in Israel three cases heard between 1973 and 1998, before defendants began being convicted of rape five years later, were also prosecuted as an offence of this kind: see Pundik, above n 19, at 173.

¹¹² cf Gibson, above n 8.

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¹¹⁴ Sacks, above n 18.

¹¹⁵ Eg Fraud Act 2006, s 5. In Scotland, fraud encompasses any ‘practical result’ obtained through intentional deception: Whyte (Craig) v HM Advocate [2017] HCJAC 14.

¹¹⁶ Hasday, above n 18, pp 140–152.

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¹²¹ So-called amatory torts that flourished in the nineteenth century, for example, were largely founded on women's financial and social dependency on men: Hasday, above n 18, ch 4; Leneman, L ‘Seduction in eighteenth and early nineteenth-century Scotland’ (1999) 78 The Scottish Historical Review 39CrossRefGoogle ScholarPubMed; Lettmaier, S Broken Engagements: The Action for Breach of Promise of Marriage and the Feminine Ideal, 1800–1940 (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2010)CrossRefGoogle Scholar.

¹²² The role of families and educational authorities in notifying the police and amplifying the distress of the complainants in ‘gender fraud’ cases cannot be ignored: Travis, above n 81.