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Monogamy, Nonmonogamy, and Identity

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  25 March 2020

Christine Overall
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Abstract

After a brief discussion of the terms “monogamy” and “nonmonogamy,” I evaluate explanations offered by different theorists for the pain that nonmonogamy can cause to the partner (especially a female partner) of a nonmonogamous person (of either sex). My suggestion is that the self, especially the female self, is convention’ ally defined in terms of sexual partners. I present and reply to a possible objection to this explanation, and then discuss my theory's normative implications.

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Hypatia , Volume 13 , Issue 4: Special Issue: Border Crossings: Multiculturalism and Postcolonial Challenges, Part 2 , Fall 1998 , pp. 1 - 17
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Copyright © 1998 by Hypatia, Inc.

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