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Romantic Love, Altruism, and Self‐Respect: An Analysis of Simone De Beauvoir

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  11 March 2020

Abstract

I examine Beauvoir's moral assessment of Romantic Love in The Second Sex.

I first set out Beauvoir's central philosophical assumptions concerning the nature and situations of women, setting the framework for her analysis of the intersubjective dynamic which constitutes the phenomenology of romantic loving. In this process four double‐bind paradoxes are generated which can lead, ultimately, to servility in the woman who loves.

In a separate analysis, I ask whether it is wrong for a woman to aspire to and/or choose this form of servitude. I distinguish two kinds of considerations: (1) those having to do with the intrinsic moral nature of the commitment or decision, and (2) those based on considerations of harm: first, to the woman who loves; second, to the loved Other; third to the nature of the relationship; and fourth, to society in general.

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Copyright © 1986 by Hypatia, Inc.

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