Adequate Parenting and child rearing are learnt through experience — the parents own experience of being parented. It is not a skill easily gained from instruction in classes! I once read that kids need three things — “love”, “limits”, and “letting go”, and from my years of experience in working with families who manifested their distress through the abuse and neglect of their children, I believe that these parents are unable to love, limit and let go. I found that these three L's were also important in looking at ways of helping the parents themselves.