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²³ Some additional examples are N.L.W. 9064E ff. 104-05; 9065E ff.110.

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²⁶ N.L.W. 9065E f.173. August 28, 1657, at Penrhyn, Caernarfonshire, f. 112. February 25, 1655. f.164. February 25, 1655.

²⁷ N.L.W. Additional Manuscript 469E f.13. December 27, 1661.

²⁸ See N.L.W. Add. MS. 469E f.13. December 27, 1661. 9068E f.30. May 13, 1672. Attuned to gendered behavior in their breeding animals, the friends were struck by the relative freedom of females to accept or reject a mate. On human projections onto animals see Thomas, Keith, Man and the Natural World (New York, 1983), p. 61.Google Scholar

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³¹ N.L.W. 9067E f.115. April 14, 1665.

³² N.L.W. 9066E f.36. November 4, 1661.

³³ N.L.W. 9066E f.292. n.d., but after 1660.

³⁴ On the conjunction of convention, propriety and meaning in letters see Stevens, Forrest Tyler, “Erasmus’s ‘Tigress’: The Language of Friendship, Pleasure, and the Renaissance Letter,” in Queering the Renaissance, ed. Goldberg, (Durham, 1994), pp. 124—40CrossRefGoogle Scholar; also Walker, Roger M., “A Rediscovered 17th Century Literary Friendship: Sir Richard Fanshawe and Dom Francisco Manuel de Melo,” Sixteenth Century Journal 23, 1 (1992).Google Scholar

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³⁶ N.L.W 9064E f.104. November 1, 1654.

³⁷ Peacham, Henry, The Compleat Gentleman (1634; rpt. Oxford, 1906), pp. 42–43Google Scholar, thought it vital to have a good style, for “speech is the Character of a man, and the Interpreter of his mind, and writing the image of that….”

³⁸ On the permissive attitude toward male friendships that fell within approved boundaries, as did those of Wynn’s circle, see Bray, “Homosexuality,” pp. 44, 46, 49. He also notes perceptively that whereas their public conduct was for the eyes of the world, language helped cement the private trust between two friends.

³⁹ N.L.W. 9066E f.1. January 17, 1661. This technique might also be employed by sons to their fathers.

⁴⁰ N.L.W. 9065E f.202. n.d., c. 1658. True friends showed “tender respect” for one another’s honor, and would do anything to procure or further it. Brathwait, Gentleman, p. 242.

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⁴⁵ N.L.W. 9067E f.138. April 2, 1666. Compare with 9066E f.268. Aug. 17, 1660. 9066E f.30. Oct. 7, 1661. 9068E f.224. Sept. 8, 1669. The gravity of the given word also eased the pre-arrangement of parliamentary elections: U.C.N.W. Mostyn MSS 9066, nos. 39, 46. Thomas Bulkeley to Thomas Mostyn.

⁴⁶ N.L.W. 469E f.64! “By such action as these one may find who are our friends really.” Sarah Wynn also criticized her brothers, when her husband complained they had paid him insufficient respect.

⁴⁷ N.L.W. 9065E f.202.

⁴⁸ Gifts ranged from oysters to horses; for some examples see N.L.W. 9068E ff. 275-77, 279. On the importance of gifts to the gentry, including the popular rings for remembrance, see Fletcher, County Community, pp. 48-49. On the significance of gift-giving and receiving, Mauss, Marcel, The Gift: Forms and Functions of Exchange in Archaic Societies (New York, 1967).Google Scholar

⁴⁹ The return of a favor requested might be immediate or stored for future use. N.L.W. 9054E f. 32. February 21, 1612. Richard Gerard to Sir John Wynn. 468E f.78. April 7, 1657. Richard Kyffin to Morus Wynn at Gwydir. See also Slater, Miriam, Family Life in the Seventeenth Century: The Verneys of Claydon House (London, 1984), pp. 17–18, 48–50, 59.Google Scholar

⁵⁰ N.L.W. 9065E ff. 224, 228, 247; 9066E ff. 281, 1, 4. Little is known of the duel on Belgrave Heath on August 22, 1661 which caused Roger’s death. Myddelton, William, editor. Chirk Castle Accounts from 1667, vol. 2 (1931): p. 3, n. 12Google Scholar. On duelling see Kiernan, V. G., The Duel in European History: Honour and the Reign of Aristocracy (Oxford, 1988).Google Scholar

⁵¹ N.L.W. 9066E F.31. October 10, 1661. Christian remarried in 1669 to a much older lawyer, John Edisbury, and died in 1670. N.L.W. 9066E ff. 35, 42.

⁵² N.L.W. 9067E F. 108. February 15, 1665. U.C.N.W. Mostyn MSS 9066 no. 23. December 9, 1674.

⁵³ N.L.W. 9066E ff.39, 79. November 27, 1661. June 2, 1663. 9067E ff. 94, 100, 131, 141. March 31 and May 28, 1664. November 2, 1665. June 2, 1666. 9068E f.228. Nov. 29, 1669. Add. MS. 469E f.27. June 20, 1664. N.L.W. 9067E ff.189, 202, 209. November 7, 1667. April 1, 1668. Sept. 26, 1668.

⁵⁴ N.L.W. 9065E f.164.

⁵⁵ Drinking was of course the leading masculine pastime for all social ranks; for a longer view see Barker-Benfield, G. J., The Culture of Sensibility: Sex and Society in Eighteenth-Century Britain (Chicago, 1992), pp. 50–51Google Scholar. On the recreations of the later Stuart Welsh gentry, which resemble those of their English counterparts, see Jenkins, Geraint H., The Foundations of Modern Wales: Wales 1642-1780 (Oxford, 1987), p. 99Google Scholar. On hunting’s social and political significance, consult Jenkins, Philip, The Making of a Ruling Class: the Glamorgan gentry, 1640-1790 (Cambridge, 1983), pp. 263–66CrossRefGoogle Scholar, and Manning, Roger B., Hunters and Poachers: A Social and Cultural History of Unlawful Hunting in England, 1485-1640 (Oxford, 1993).CrossRefGoogle Scholar

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⁵⁷ N.L.W. 9068E f.277. December 3, n.d. N.L.W. 9066E f.41. Sir Roger Mostyn to Sir Richard Wynn. 9067E f. 182. John Wynn of Melai to same. N.L.W. 469E f.62. June 19, 1669. On one occasion Herbert proposed a hunt to shake off the gloom of a local smallpox epidemic that was decimating the lower orders. N.L.W. 9067E f.102. June 26, 1664.

⁵⁸ For instance, Sir Roger Mostyn joked to Richard that his son-in-law Puleston’s sobriety “seldom happens but upon a great Eclipse…for you go sometimes sober to bed he never.” N.L.W. 9066E f.36. He was equally forgiving of his own indulgences. 9066E f.16. May 9, 1661. 9068E f.264. October 12, 1670.

⁵⁹ N.L.W. 9065E f.169. January 29, 1657. 9067E f.151. 9066E f.84.

⁶⁰ Disparity of rank carried other risks. In his examination of the conventions of male friendship, Bray points out that the ideal assumed both men would be of gentle birth; when one was not, the relationship was likely to be viewed far less favorably and might become vulnerable to accusations of sodomy. Bray, “Homosexuality,” pp. 50-56.

⁶¹ In spring 1674 see N.L.W. 9068E f.58, 9069E ff. 60-61.

⁶² Westhauser, “Friendship and Family,” compares the sociability of Samuel Pepys and rural Adam Eyre. The latter was far down the social scale from Richard Wynn, but his social circle was similarly stable.

⁶³ Notable absences among his chosen companions were his first cousins, the sons of his paternal uncles William and Henry Wynn.

⁶⁴ Sir John Wynn’s distinction was “I have ever more accepted of a true friend than a kinsman, for many kinsmen there are but few friends.” N.L.W. 9059E f.4. January 21, 1624. This proverb is also cited in Goody, Jack, The development of the family and marriage in Europe (Cambridge, 1983), p. 272.CrossRefGoogle Scholar

⁶⁵ N.L.W. 9067E f.143. June 14, 1666.

⁶⁶ N.L.W. 9065E f.184.

⁶⁷ N.L.W. 9064E ff. 104-05, 9065E f.110. 9065E f.112. February 25, 1655.

⁶⁸ Lady Sarah Wynn maintained nearly as active a social life as her husband, as did her sisters and mother. See also Slater, Family Life, on Vemey, Lady Mary, and Eales, Jacqueline, Puritans and Roundheads: The Harleys of Brampton Bryan and the outbreak of the English Civil War (Cambridge, 1990), ch. 2, esp. pp. 40–41Google Scholar, on Harley, Lady Brilliana, Heal, Felicity, Hospitality in Early Modern England (Oxford, 1990), ch. 4.Google Scholar

⁶⁹ Bacon, “Followers,” pp. 38-39. Partially quoted in Bray, “Homosexuality,” p. 46.

⁷⁰ N.L.W. 9066E f.37, November 12, 1661. 9067E f.100, May 28, 1664.

⁷¹ The bitter pre-Civil War enmity between the Wynns of Gwydir and the Griffiths of Lleyn, for example, dwindled before the Restoration. N.L.W. 9065E f.177. Dec. 13, 1657. William Griffith of Lleyn to Richard Wynn at Gwydir. Also 9066E ff. 282, 286, in 1660. On Caernarfonshire politics see Dodd, A. H., A History of Caernarvonshire (2nd ed.; Wrexham, Clwyd, 1990), pp. 146–58, 164–66Google Scholar. Johnson, A. M., “Wales during the Commonwealth and Protectorate,” in Puritans and Revolutionaries, eds. Pennington, D. H. and Thomas, Keith (Oxford, 1978), pp. 236, 255.Google Scholar

⁷² The horse was difficult to train. N.L.W. 9067E f.102. June 26, 1664. Edward Herbert to Richard Wynn. After the Restoration Richard, too, jested about Presbyterians. N.L.W. 9066E f.259. June 12, 1660. Richard Wynn in London to Lady Grace Wynn at Gwydir. But neither man mocked the views of their intrepid father-in-law, Sir Thomas Myddelton, a Presbyterian when he was secluded from Parliament in Pride’s Purge but no longer, apparently, by the 1660s.

⁷³ N.L.W. 469E f.7, 9066E ff. 16, 18, 75.

⁷⁴ Rosenheim, James, The Townshends of Raynham: Nobility in Transition in Restoration and Early Hanoverian England (Middletown, CT, 1989), pp. 37–39, 58Google Scholar, remarks on the heavy toll exacted on Horatio Townshend’s friendships by his political choices and ambitions. Townshend was Wynn’s exact contemporary.

⁷⁵ N.L.W. 469E f.48, 9067E f.158. Both Oct. 30, 1666. Sir Richard Wynn at Coventry to Lady Sarah Wynn at Gwydir. John Wynn of Melai at Gray’s Inn to Sir Richard Wynn. See also 9066E ff. 20-23. June 13-July 17, 1661. Thomas Bulkeley to Wynn.

⁷⁶ On delays, N.L.W. 9067E ff. 95-96, 9068E ff. 4-5. On Parliament and stays in London see N.L.W. 469E f.48; 9066E f.286; 9067E ff.158, 182, 203; 9068E ff.226, 270, 45.

⁷⁷ Jenkins, Making of a Ruling Class, p. 264, also notes this longing for country life on the part of the Glamorgan elite when in London, and it is unlikely to have been unique to the Welsh gentry. On London’s leisure culture see Barker-Benfield, The Culture of Sensibility, ch. 2.

⁷⁸ N.L.W. 9067E f.155. October 14, 1666. 9068E f.236. February 21, 1670. “Advice to a Daughter” in Halifax: Complete Works, ed. J.P. Kenyon (Baltimore, 1969), pp. 286-87.

⁷⁹ N.L.W. Add. MS. 469E f.42. September 22, 1666. Sarah was the only person with whom Richard used “thee” and “thou.” His London letters mingled endearments with instructions about his horses, and included several postscript greetings and drinks to Sarah’s health from “honest Jack Wynn and Tom Grosvenor,” Richard’s companions in London. 469E ff 39-42, 44-48.

⁸⁰ Barker-Benfield, Culture of Sensibility, p. 96. Stone, The Family, Sex and Marriage, p. 199.

⁸¹ N.L.W. 9068E f.51. February 28, 1674. N.L.W. 9065E f.162. August 20, 1656. Sir Roger Mostyn wrote that his wife and child were still very weak; in his distraction he did not even mention the infant’s sex. 9067E f.91. Jan. 4, 1664. 9068E ff. 7,9,11-14 concern Sarah Wynn’s final illness in spring 1671.

⁸² N.L.W. 9065E f.202. Thomas Bulkeley was also fond of lauding this benefit of marriage. N.L.W. 9066E f.292.

⁸³ N.L.W. 9065E, f.181. February 21, 1658. Edward Herbert to Richard Wynn at Gwydir. Also see f.202, cited above, and f.184. A surviving 1660 letter from his wife Anne is very affectionate, similar in tone and phrasing to her sister Sarah’s letters to her husband Richard Wynn. Printed in Chirk Castle Accounts, 2: 46-47, n. 227.

⁸⁴ NX.W. 9067E f.99; 469E f.27.

⁸⁵ N.L.W. 9066E ff. 18, 22. May 27, 1661 at Gwydir and July 12, at Beaumaris. U.C.N.W. Mostyn MSS 9066 no. 18. September 20, 1674.

⁸⁶ This was Edmund Tilney’s theme in The Flower of Friendship: A Renaissance Dialogue Contesting Marriage, ed. Valerie Wayne (Ithaca, 1992). Daniel Rogers’ Matrimonial Honour enjoined wives to “remember thou art a true friend, made for the day of adversity….” Quoted in Powell, C. L., English Domestic Relations, 1487-1653 (New York, 1917), p. 139CrossRefGoogle Scholar. Mutuality is the chief emphasis of William Gouge’s Domestical Duties. Leites, Edmund, “The Duty to Desire: Love, Friendship and Sexuality in Some Puritan Theories of Marriage,” Journal of Social History 15 (1982): 383–408CrossRefGoogle Scholar, offers a thought-provoking discussion of these issues, esp. pp. 391-94.

⁸⁷ This was the central dilemma in many loving marriages. Davidoff and Hall discuss the tension and sadness it could cause in Family Fortunes, pp. 326-29. On mutuality and hierarchy see also Fletcher, Anthony, “The Protestant Idea of Marriage,” in Religion, Culture and Society in Early Modern Britain, eds. Fletcher, Anthony and Roberts, Peter (Cambridge, 1994), pp. 161–81CrossRefGoogle Scholar, and Fletcher, Anthony, Gender, Sex and Subordination in England 1500-1800 (New Haven, CT, 1995), ch. 8, “Husbands and Wives: Case Studies,” pp. 154–72.Google Scholar

⁸⁸ N.L.W. 469E f.9. June 13, 1661. Also see N.L.W. 469E ff.40, 50-52.

⁸⁹ The few close friendships of Richard’s contemporary, the clergyman Ralph Josselin, were not with men alone but with three couples and one woman, Mary Church; this last was the deepest. Josselin’s heterosocial ties certainly suggest that gender barriers were not insurmountable or invariable. Macfarlane, Alan, The Family Life of Ralph Josselin (New York, 1970), pp. 150–52.Google Scholar

⁹⁰ On Thomas Grosvenor see N.L.W. 9066E f.39, 9067E f.94, 9068E f.228. 9068E f. 266. Oct. 15, n.d. Edward Herbert to Richard Wynn. N.L.W. 9065E f.146~. June 5, 1656.

⁹¹ U.C.N.W. Mostyn MSS 9066 nos.7, 12, 30.

⁹² Though tension in the father-heir relationship was persistent over several generations of the Wynn family, sons were guarded in criticizing fathers in letters, even to their understanding brothers. Carr, “Mostyn Family,” notes similar behavior in the Mostyn family in the late 16th and early 17th centuries.

⁹³ N.L.W. 9068E f.249. June 15, 1670.

⁹⁴ N.L.W. 9067E f.206. Thomas Vaughan in London to Sir Richard Wynn at Gwydir. For a similar comment see 9065E f.169. Jan. 29, 1657. Robert Mostyn to Richard Wynn.

⁹⁵ N.L.W. 9068E ff. 265, 7. October 13, 1670, and February 25, 1671.

⁹⁶ On Richard and Moras see N.L.W. 9065E f.248. May 11, 1660. Richard Wynn to Moras Wynn. 9066E f.259. June 12, 1660. Richard Wynn to Lady Grace Wynn. 469E f.52 Dec. 20, 1666. Richard Wynn to Sarah Wynn. Will of Sir Richard Wynn of Gwydir, baronet. March 24, 1674. Wynnstay Manuscripts DD/WY/6591. Clwyd Record Office, Ruthin. Richard’s cousin Thomas Mostyn of Mostyn’s choices similarly favored the elder generation and close kin in the versions of his will he wrote as a young married man. U.C.N. W. (Bangor), Mostyn Manuscripts 171, 174.

⁹⁷ Mostyn, was only eighteen in 1642. Royalist Officers of North Wales, 1642-1660, comp. Tucker, Norman. (Denbigh, 1961), p. 45Google Scholar. Tucker also lists a Robert Williams (p. 66), but with so common a name we cannot be sure he is Wynn’s friend.

⁹⁸ N.L.W. 9066E f.10. March 19, 1661.

⁹⁹ N.L.W. 9065E ff. 201, 211. Except in Anglesey, most north Welsh ex-Royalists came to terms with the Protectorate. Nevertheless Johnson, “Wales,” p. 246, notes that in general north Wales did not see the same level of return to government posts by the old ruling families in the late 1650s as did other parts of the country.

¹⁰⁰ N.L.W. 9065E ff.219, 221-24. Myddelton fled temporarily to France and his lands were sequestered. The account in N. Tucker, “Richard Wynne and the Booth Rebellion,” Transactions of the Caernarvonshire Historical Society (1959): 46-64, is a trifle fanciful, but utilizes all the Wynn of Gwydir Papers referring to the episode. Morrill, John, Cheshire 1630-1660: County Government and Society during the English Revolution (Oxford, 1974), pp. 300–25Google Scholar. Dodd, History, pp. 151-53. Geraint Jenkins, Foundations of Modern Wales, pp. 32-42, sees the rebellion as an emphatic political gesture by moderates and old ruling families.

¹⁰¹ This is my strong impression, but only a maternal cousin of Wynn’s, updating his mother on the composition fine Richard will have to pay as penalty for joining the rebellion, sympathizes cautiously: “They only attempted the Redemption of the Nation.” N.L.W. 9065E f.243. February 1660. William Dolben to Grace Lady Wynn. Most of what little research has been done on provincial history in the 1650s tends to bear the Restoration very much in mind. Coward, Barry, “The experience of the gentry, 1640-1660,” in Town and Countryside in the English Revolution, ed Richardson, R. C. (Manchester, 1992), p. 208.Google Scholar

¹⁰² Jenkins, Foundations of Modern Wales, pp. 6-7 and passim in ch. 1 on Sir Thomas Myddelton, p. 12 on Bulkeley, p. 24 on Mostyn, p. 26 on Herbert. On the Wynns see Dodd, History, p. 105 and passim; Aylmer, G. E., The King’s Servants: The Civil Service of Charles 1, 1625-1642 (London, 1961), p. 382CrossRefGoogle Scholar. On the Grosvenors, see Morrill, Cheshire, pp. 21-23, 208. See also Jones, E. Gwynne, ed., “History of the Bulkeley Family by William Williams, clergyman, c. 1673-74”, in Anglesey Antiquarian Society and Field Club Transactions (1948): 1–99Google Scholar. Carr, , “Mostyn Family.” The Dictionary of Welsh Biography (Oxford, 1959)Google Scholar is useful on families as well as individuals.

¹⁰³ Hutton, Ronald, The Restoration: A Political and Religious History of England and Wales 1658-1667 (Oxford, 1985), pp. 119–20, 146Google Scholar, cites Clarendon, noting that even ten years age difference could create striking differences in memories and assumptions. Generational difference is a “concept which explains much but should not be made absolute.”

¹⁰⁴ Pollock, Linda, “Living on the Stage of the World: the Concept of Privacy among the Elite of Early Modern England,” in Rethinking Social History: English Society 1570-1920 and its interpretation, ed. Wilson, Adrian (Manchester, 1993), pp. 78–96.Google Scholar

¹⁰⁵ U.C.N.W. (Bangor) Mostyn MSS, no. 18. September 20, 1674. Sir Richard Wynn at Gwydir to Thomas Mostyn at Gloddaeth. Richard concluded, “if I be anything well I will see you this winter.” His wife Sarah had died in June 1671 and though without a son he had not yet remarried.