Book contents
- Frontmatter
- PREFACE
- Contents
- CHAP. I SOMETHING TO DO
- CHAP. II SELF-DEPENDENCE
- CHAP. III FEMALE PROFESSIONS
- CHAP. IV FEMALE HANDICRAFTS
- CHAP. V FEMALE SERVANTS
- CHAP. VI THE MISTRESS OF A FAMILY
- CHAP. VII FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS
- CHAP. VIII GOSSIP
- CHAP. IX WOMEN OF THE WORLD
- CHAP. X HAPPY AND UNHAPPY WOMEN
- CHAP. XI LOST WOMEN
- CHAP. XII WOMEN GROWING OLD
CHAP. VII - FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 05 August 2011
- Frontmatter
- PREFACE
- Contents
- CHAP. I SOMETHING TO DO
- CHAP. II SELF-DEPENDENCE
- CHAP. III FEMALE PROFESSIONS
- CHAP. IV FEMALE HANDICRAFTS
- CHAP. V FEMALE SERVANTS
- CHAP. VI THE MISTRESS OF A FAMILY
- CHAP. VII FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS
- CHAP. VIII GOSSIP
- CHAP. IX WOMEN OF THE WORLD
- CHAP. X HAPPY AND UNHAPPY WOMEN
- CHAP. XI LOST WOMEN
- CHAP. XII WOMEN GROWING OLD
Summary
“And what is Friendship but a name,
A charm that lulls to sleep,
A shade that follows wealth and fame,
And leaves the wretch to weep?”
This remark, expressed too tersely and intelligibly to be considered “poetry” now-a-days, must apply to the nobler sex. Few observant persons will allege against ours, that even in its lowest form our friendship is deceitful. Fickle it may be, weak, exaggerated, sentimental—the mere lath-and-plaster imitation of a palace great enough for a demigod to dwell in—but it is rarely false, parasitical, or diplomatic. The countless secondary motives which many men are mean enough to have—nay, to own—are all but impossible to us; impossible from the very faults of our nature—our frivolity, irrationality, and incapacity to seize on more than one idea at the same time. In truth, a sad proportion of us are too empty-headed to be double-minded, too shallow to be insincere. Nay, even the worst of us being more direct and simple of character than men are, our lightest friendship—the merest passing liking that we decorate with that name—is, while it lasts, more true than the generality of the so-called “friendships” of mankind.
But—and this “but” will, I am aware, raise a whole nest of hornets—from our very peculiarities of temperament, women's friendships are rarely or never so firm, so just, or so enduring, as those of men—when you can find them.
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- A Woman's Thoughts about Women , pp. 165 - 188Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 2010First published in: 1858