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14 - Gender and Race Perspectives on Relationship Maintenance

from Part IV - The Social Context of Relationship Maintenance

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  02 December 2019

By
Katherine Fiori  and
Amy Rauer
Edited by
Brian G. Ogolsky  and
J. Kale Monk
Brian G. Ogolsky
Affiliation:
University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign
J. Kale Monk
Affiliation:
University of Missouri
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Summary

An underlying assumption across definitions of relationship maintenance is that these strategies, which are used to maintain a satisfactory state in the relationship, are uniform both within and across couples. However, couples or even partners within the same relationship may differ in how they define a satisfactory state based on their own characteristics and experiences. The goal of this chapter is to consider this diversity, not only in how couples maintain the relationship but also in how these maintenance strategies influence the quality of the relationship. Gender and race are the primary focus of this chapter, as both have been implicated as particularly salient contexts for relationship maintenance. Drawing when possible upon a dyadic approach to understand relationship maintenance, this chapter emphasizes the primary romantic relationship contexts in which gender and race are manifested (i.e., heterosexual and same-sex couples; intraracial and interracial couples) and the key correlates of maintenance within these relationships. Despite numerous advances made in this area over the past decade, more research is needed to explore the intersections of sex/gender and sexual orientation with race to understand how sensitive maintenance may be to the various individual, relational, and cultural contexts in which it occurs.

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relationship maintenancegenderracesame-sex couplesintraracial couplesinterracial couplesequity
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Relationship Maintenance
Theory, Process, and Context
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Publisher: Cambridge University Press
Print publication year: 2019

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