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21 - Talking with children and their understanding of mental illness

from Part V - Child-sensitive therapeutic interventions

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  09 August 2009

Alan Cooklin
Affiliation:
The Family Project, Camden & Islington Mental Health & Social Care Trust London, UK
Michael Göpfert
Affiliation:
Webb House Democratic Therapeutic Community, Crewe
Jeni Webster
Affiliation:
5 Boroughs Partnership, Warrington
Mary V. Seeman
Affiliation:
University of Toronto
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Summary

Introduction

The title of this chapter highlights an important starting point for what follows. All children with mentally ill parents construct some form of understanding about changes they observe in their parents' behaviour. If professionals are to talk helpfully to a child about his parent's illness, the talk needs to be a dialogue or dialectic between the different knowledge and understanding of the child on one hand and the professional on the other. In other words, it is no use just ‘telling’ the child – the professional needs to try to find out how the child understands what has happened to his mother, father, brother or sister, to talk about how he has worked it out, and then to fit the professional's knowledge into the discussion.

What to talk to children about

In a study of 11–15-year-olds living with a depressed parent, Garley et al. (1997) found that the children particularly wanted discussions about the following four topics:

  1. Understanding the illness. This would include their own concerns, ideas about the cause of the illness in their parent, and access to information.

  2. How to recognize the signs of an impending illness.

  3. Issues to do with hospitalization.

  4. Advice about management of the illness. This would include ideas about coping with the effect of illness on themselves as well as on their parent, suggestions about what is helpful to the parent and recommendations for other children whose parents are suffering from similar problems.

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Parental Psychiatric Disorder
Distressed Parents and their Families
, pp. 292 - 305
Publisher: Cambridge University Press
Print publication year: 2004

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