1 - Forgiveness and resentment
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 14 January 2010
Summary
Understand, and forgive, my mother said, and the effort has quite exhausted me. I could do with some anger to energize me, and bring me back to life again. But where can I find that anger? Who is to help me? My friends? I have been understanding and forgiving my friends, my female friends, for as long as I can remember. … Understand and forgive. … Understand husbands, wives, fathers, mothers. Understand dog-fights above and the charity box below, understand fur-coated women and children without shoes. Understand school – Jonah, Job and the nature of the Deity; understand Hitler and the bank of England and the behavior of Cinderella's sisters. Preach acceptance to wives and tolerance to husbands; patience to parents and compromise to the young. Nothing in this world is perfect; to protest takes the strength needed for survival. Grit your teeth, endure. Understand, forgive, accept, in the light of your own death, your own inevitable corruption. …
Oh mother, what you taught me! And what a miserable, crawling, snivelling way to go, the worn-out slippers neatly placed beneath the bed, careful not to give offense.
Fay Weldon, Female FriendsTo err is human; to forgive, supine.
S. J. PerelmanINTRODUCTION
Forgiveness, Bishop Butler teaches, is the forswearing of resentment – the resolute overcoming of the anger and hatred that are naturally directed toward a person who has done one an unjustified and non-excused moral injury.
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- Forgiveness and Mercy , pp. 14 - 34Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 1988
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