Book contents
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- Preface
- Acknowledgments
- Introduction
- 1 The Nature of Hurt Feelings
- Part One Background
- Part Two The Scientific Bases of Hurt Feelings
- Part Three Applications of Hurt Feelings in Mental Health
- Part Four Models of Hurt Feelings In Theory and Applications
- Appendix A An Informed Consent Form to Deal with Hurt Feelings
- Appendix B Experimental Scale of Unexpressed Hurt Feelings
- References
- Author Index
- Subject Index
1 - The Nature of Hurt Feelings
What Is Intimacy?
from Introduction
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 05 June 2012
- Frontmatter
- Contents
- Preface
- Acknowledgments
- Introduction
- 1 The Nature of Hurt Feelings
- Part One Background
- Part Two The Scientific Bases of Hurt Feelings
- Part Three Applications of Hurt Feelings in Mental Health
- Part Four Models of Hurt Feelings In Theory and Applications
- Appendix A An Informed Consent Form to Deal with Hurt Feelings
- Appendix B Experimental Scale of Unexpressed Hurt Feelings
- References
- Author Index
- Subject Index
Summary
It is increasingly apparent that a complete understanding of any emotional process is going to require attention paid to multiple levels of analysis, from the cultural to the behavioral, psychological, experimental, physiological, and molecular.
Coan & Allen (2007, p. 8)This chapter presents and supports a behavioral definition of intimacy in contrast to definitions of intimacy obtained through self-report, paper-and-pencil questionnaires. In no way is this contrast meant to diminish the value of questionnaires. It merely means that there are many ways to define intimacy that lead to different findings, implications, and conclusions. When intimacy is defined as the sharing of joys, hurts, and fears of being hurt, this definition implies also that hurt feelings exist at the foundation of our existence (Cusinato & L’Abate, 2012; L’Abate, 1977, 1986, 1994, 1997, 1999a, 2003, 2005, 2009b; L’Abate, Cusinato, Maino, Colesso, & Scilletta, 2010; L’Abate & Sloan, 1984).
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- Hurt FeelingsTheory, Research, and Applications in Intimate Relationships, pp. 3 - 34Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 2011