4 - Childhood Domestic Violence and Abuse
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 12 October 2022
Summary
Dave (2019)
‘Lesley’
This hip-hop track is centred upon advice the artist gave to a woman named ‘Lesley’ who he befriended on a train and who discloses she is experiencing domestic abuse.
‘This is a guy called Dave he's a rapper from the roads himself … he speaks a lot about essentially what I’m trying to say but in music form. Giving the message that he's putting out there and who he is and where he comes from like, he's really making a difference to young people, road people as well, making them realize you can speak now.’ (Travis)
As can be seen in this example, some of the music tracks that were discussed in the interviews dealt directly with issues of abuse. Talking to men about their experiences of childhood domestic violence was a sensitive and delicate process. They had all come to take part in the research because they identified with the study context; however, it became clear that the label did not resonate with everyone. Nowhere was this more poignant than in the case of Lester, who noted, ‘I didn't experience the domestic part of the violence.’ However, he disclosed how his mother had in fact been strangled to death by her partner when he was a young child. In addition to Lester feeling his experiences did not come under the domestic violence and abuse (DVA) label, there were also several men who considered DVA as incorporating their own direct experiences of physical and sexual child abuse. What became clear in the men's stories was that there was often a conflation between domestic violence/ abuse and child maltreatment: ‘domestic abuse’ was interpreted more broadly as ‘abuse in the home’. Travis shared the tragic story of his nephew who was killed by his parents. He was in tears as he spoke to me about his regret at not realizing the abuse that was occurring, which was brought up using this music track:
Coleen McMahon (2012)
‘Beautiful Boy’
Young beautiful boy
Making his way up to the golden doors
Time will not erase all the tears streaming
down our faces for you
We’ll miss you baby boy.
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- Boys, Childhood Domestic Abuse and Gang InvolvementViolence at Home, Violence On-Road, pp. 47 - 63Publisher: Bristol University PressPrint publication year: 2022